Sometimes change shows up, whether you want it or not

In recent months, I have seen that many folks have been going through some career changes, and much of it is not by choice.  Layoffs and restructurings can be painful but they are a fairly common phenomenon.  While it is often a shock and a blow to one’s self-esteem in the moment, it does not mean that it is the end of the world (even if it feels like that at first). It may be helpful to see this as a process through which you must move and that positive changes are possible.

It’s not always about you

While many people know intellectually that many companies engage in restructurings, realignments, layoffs, etc., it can still be hard not to take this personally when it happens to you.  Actually, I think it would be pretty normal to be shocked, upset, feel attacked and that your worth was in question.  I would consider such a reaction to be unpleasant but perhaps part of the process of dealing with a professional blow.  What is key here is that it should be a part of a process that changes over time, ultimately allowing for revision of these negative thoughts and feelings, and where one ultimately is able to move forward.

Well, sometimes it’s about you

Let’s face it, sometimes the requirements for a job change and a previously valued employee may lose one’s job.  Sometimes, one gets a new supervisor who has a different vision of the job and the existing staff are put at risk.  This happens.  Again, it can be painful to lose your job for such reasons but people need to be able to take in and incorporate any relevant feedback and chart a new path forward.  Such an experience doesn’t have to be an indictment of you as a person.  I would go so far as to say that the ability to move forward constructively after losing one’s job is a reflection of solid self-esteem and resilience – two key constructs to good mental health.

There are no promises

I am not trying to paint an overly rosy picture and say that someone will definitely find a better job in the future and be better off.  However, it is certainly possible that this may be the case, so don’t automatically rule it out.  I have observed that sometimes, people get so stuck in their jobs that they start to question that they could be successful anywhere else.  An unanticipated job change may the perfect time to reflect on your goals and consider if there are different paths worth considering. However, it is important not to let your fear get the best of you.  It’s likely that a review of your goals, needs, and skills are in order and that some research and planning is needed.

Networking, anyone?

When one finds themselves suddenly in need of a new opportunity, it is REALLY helpful to already have a good professional network in place.  I find that LinkedIn is well suited to managing one’s network but anyway you maintain one is good.  (I still have my early 90s rolodex; not sure if anything is still current but I am not quite willing to part with it). I suggest that you cultivate your network regularly, so you are not starting from zero in the event you find yourself in urgent need of a new job. Then use it.

Personally, I am not the world’s biggest fan of attending big networking events solo but I have found that most (not all) people I have ever contacted seemed interested in hearing from me and are willing to give me their time.  They sometimes see it as a chance to grow their own network and see you as someone they may wish to reach out to in the future.  Win-win. If they don’t respond or turn you down, remember earlier tip that it’s not all about you.

Some tips

Reach out to friends first
If you don’t enjoy networking or are having a hard time getting started, consider contacting people you know will be supportive. That may help build your confidence to reach out to “colder” contacts.

“Tell me about yourself.”
Ask your contacts about themselves!  You don’t have to do as they do but it can be helpful to learn how others have progressed their careers and lives.

Don’t simply ask for a job
Sometimes your contacts may be put off it you point blank ask them for a job. Think carefully about such a direct approach; if your contact feels comfortable recommending you for a specific job, they may just come out and say so.

Be open to feedback but make your own choices
If you are networking and someone gives you feedback you may not have liked, it is still worth considering. I actually suggest you thank them for their thoughts, as it can be difficult to provide constructive feedback. Later, give such feedback some consideration to see what you can take from it and discard it if it is way off the mark. Look for feedback themes.

Ask your network for new contacts
At the end of the conversation, ask your contact if they can connect you to someone else that may be able to offer you relevant help.

Virtual networking works
While I personally prefer meeting someone in person, I also appreciate that it may be easier to meet virtually. When I am requesting the meeting, I will set up the meeting and set up the call details. (I really miss having an assistant.)

Consider revising your (negative) opinion on networking
Networking doesn’t have to be miserable. Many times, it can actually be a positive experience, especially if you approach it with an open mind.

Feel free to network with me!
I am happy to chat, subject to availability.